I am currently employed for a firm around 10 minutes from my house.  But, I have just been offered a new position which is about an hours train ride away.  I got married just under 3 months ago and my husband works near where we live.  I would not wish to uproot us as we have just started settling into our new home.  I am a bit scared to leave my comfortable job for the new opportunity, but purely due to the commute.  I don't want to turn into a zombie due to the extra travelling time.  it is 20 minutes from mine to the station on a good run, then an hour on the train plus a 10 minute walk the other end.  I would be travelling 3 hours a day, which will also impact on the time I see my husband. Am I being silly?

I do three hours commute a day (takes approx 1hr 30mins door to door). Yes it is mind-numbing but it can be quite nice to chill out on the train for a bit, surprisingly! But are you enthusiastic about the job? Do you think it would be a good step for your career?

I think it depends how much it will eat into your out of work life, commuting can be a sacrifice so just depends.

I'm always amazed how far people commute, but to have a family life away from a city makes it worth while. I know people who commute from York to London. Expensive and time consuming but the money paid in London and the type of job(finance/it) makes it viable.

It's worth it if you enjoy where you live but even then I would try and find somewhere closer to home.

As someone who has done their fair share of commuting, I know how frustrating it is and how mind-numbing!

Commuting is a real sacrifice. I dread to think how many hours I have spent doing it since I started my job. I get in much later than the rest of the household I live with and it's depressing! But unfortunately, sometimes you have to go where the money is!

I just left my job due to the 4 hours a day I spent commuting. The commute didn't seem too bad at first, it is quite nice to be able to relax on the train for a while, but, after several months of it and having just bought a new house with my partner (who works close by home) I realised that it wasn't for me.

On top of missing out on home time - seeing my friends of an evening or even just getting jobs done round the house - I found that my work life was suffering. I didn't want to stay behind for drinks with colleagues as I was tired and had to make sure I caught a decent train, having to work late or go in early was a real hassle and being tired from getting up at 5am isn't ideal!

I would consider commuting again though, but only for a role I was sure I was going to love and if the money really makes it worthwhile. I took a job for 4k less than I was on, but im still £50 a month better off without my commute.

My worry for you is that if you are already dreading the commute it could become too much very quickly. In my experience it only gets worse the more you have to do it.

My advice to you is to talk it through thoroughly with your partner - rank aspects in order of importance i.e. job satisfaction, home time, money, career progression etc and compare what you have now to what the new job would offer - By looking at it like this, what's most important to you will probably become scarily obvious!